Eduardus Ek Kim, Hardenberg Netherlands, 2022

photos:

Ek Kim & Santi, 2022

Reunion after more than 50 years at the church in Amersfoort, Netherlands.


Thank you Ek Kim & Santi for hosting us and driving us to Germany.

Tjien Ping & Shirley

Henky Joe, Zurich 11-13 October 2025

photos:
Friendship more 50 years

Friendships of over 50 years are built on trust, loyalty, long-term emotional support, and a depth of shared experiences.

These relationships often involve relationships, honesty, and shared memories across various life stages.
Such friendships are precious and rare.

Thank you, Henky and Irma
for hosting us with Sulina and Diana at your home and taking us
on a trip to Lake Zurich and your university.

Shirley n Petrus,

UKI Pilgrimage of Hope, 14-24 Oct 2025

Monday, 13 October
      Coming from Zurich to Rome

Domine Quo Vadis, Rome , photos
Quo Vadis of St Peter Church

Tuesday, 14 October

Madonna delle Tre Fontane
Saint Paul Basilica, out of the wall: Holy Door-1

Photos:
St Paul outside the walls, Rome

Saint Peter Basilica, enter with Stations of the Cross : Holy Door-2

Wednesday, 15 October
Saint Peter Basilica, audience w Pope Leo XIV
   there were thousand of peoples

St John Lateran Basilica, Holy Door-3

St Maria Maggiore Basilica, Holy Door-4

Closing Piligrimage Holy-Doors Mass

Ancient Rome: walking tour, photo stop at Coloseum, Roman Forum, Piazza Venezia,

photos:
St Peter,St JohnLateran,Maria Maggiore

Thursday, 16 October: Roma/Roccaporena/Cascia/Perugia
Roccaporena, Birth place of St Rita
climb Allo scoglio di Santa Rita, there is water flowing never stop on the mountain top

Cascia, Basilica Santa Rita
     Mass in Basilica Santa Rita

Friday, 17 October: Perugia/Assisi/Perugia
Basilica Santa Chiara, Gereja Santa Maria Maggiore, Assisi
    Mass inside, with the body of St Carlo Acutis pn the right side

Basilica St Francis Assisi

Santuario Rivotorto
Basilica Santa Maria degli Angeli

Saturday, 18 October: Perugia/San Gimignano
San Gimignano, city with thousand of towers
          The best ice cream, climb the tallest tower

Siena: Duomo di Siena, Piazza del Campo
     Mass in Church San Franceso

Santa Catarina home
     
Sunday, 19 October: Siena/Pisa/Forli
Pisa , photos:
Pisa Italy

Forli, St Pellegrinus

Monday, 20 October: Forli/Loreto/Lanciano/San Giovanni Rotondo
Loreto
        Bunda Maria "Santa Casa"
Lanciano
Santurio Miracolli Eucaristico di Lanciano
        Mass in Church di Lanciano

San Giovanni Rotondo
photos:
Padre Pio

Tuesday, 21 October: San Giovanni Rotondo/Monte Sant' Angelo
Stations of the Cross
    Basilica Antica and Nuova
    
Monte Sant' Angelo
       Mass inside Cave of the apparition of the archangel Saint Michael
    Santuario San Michele Arcangelo

Wednesday, 22 Oct: San Giovanni Rotondo/Alberobello/Matera/Potenza
Alberobello : conical houses 

Matera

Thursday, 23 Oct: Potenza/Pompei/ Caserta
Pompei
    Basilica St Bartholo Longo

Caserta, Royal Palace Caserta, to to the top of the fountain water..

Frida, 24 October: Caserta/Rome/Fiumicino airport
Train Caserta-Rome Termini, Leonardo Express to Fiumicino airport

  

       


   

Bekerja di Manado 1983-1988

 Saya bekerja di RS Jiwa Manado: 1983-1988

tugas setiap tiga bulan ke RSU Sangir di pulau Sangir, Bolaang Mongondow dan Gorontalo

naik kapal kayu Selecta , di huni lebih dari kapasitas, dua kali kapasitas? tanpa cukup jeket-penyelamat

Nyiram Manado 1984

Kami tinggal di rumah dinas type 60 ?, dengan dua kamar, ruang tamu, dapur dan toilet+kamar mandi.  Saya bongkar tembok pemisah, sehingga menjadi satu kamar tidur yang lebih luas. Rumah dinas mempunyai tanah cuku luas. Rumah terletak di dalam komplex RS Jiwa Manado, Jl Bethesda, Manado.
Saya tanami bermacam pohon buah-buahan. Pisang terutama, Mangga, Durian, dan tanaman semusim Jagung hybrida. Singkong hanya satu kali, karena membuat tanah tidak subur.
Lalu pindah ke rumah dr. Hidajat, direktur RS Jiwa Manado, yang pindah ke rumah dr. Manus dipinggir jalan Bethesda. Tanah rumah direktur lebih luas, sehinga saya bisa menanam segala species pohon Pisang. Dan meneruskan memelihara babi, yang sebelumnya diperlihara oleh dr. Hidajat.
Pengalaman yang membanggakan ialah: membangung pavilion perawatan: 2x 150 m2 tambah extra 100m2 di tengahnya. Tanpa biaya,  no-budget, untuk ruang perawat. Saya mencontoh model Mental Hospital di Singapore.
Dan menanam pohon Acasia di sekeliling RS Jiwa Manado. Yang tumbuh subur dan besar, waktu kami sekeluarga datang ke Manado 2010 



for grandchildren:

I worked at the Manado Mental Hospital: 1983-1988

Quarterly assigned to Sangir General Hospital on Sangir Island, Bolaang Mongondow, and Gorontalo

Boarded on the Selecta wooden ship, overcrowded, twice capacity? Without enough life jackets.

Nyiram Manado 1984

We lived in a 60-square-foot official residence, with two bedrooms, a living room, a kitchen, and a toilet and bathroom. I removed the dividing wall to create one larger bedroom. The official residence had a fairly large plot of land. The house was located within the Manado Mental Hospital complex on Jl. Bethesda, Manado.

I planted various fruit trees, especially bananas, mangoes, durian, and hybrid corn as an annual crop. I only planted cassava once, as it made the soil infertile.

Then I moved to Dr. Hidajat, the director of Manado Mental Hospital, because he moved into Dr. Manus' house on Bethesda Street. The director's house had more land, allowing me to plant all kinds of banana trees. I also continued raising pigs, which Dr. Hidajat had previously raised.

A proud experience was building a treatment pavilion: two 150 m2 x 100 m2 plus an additional 100 m2 in the middle. Without the budget for this nurses' quarters. I modeled it after the mental hospitals in Singapore.

I also planted acacia trees around Manado Mental Hospital. These grew well and large when my family and I came to Manado in 2010.

Becoming a mature person

Becoming a mature person:
It's difficult, but not impossible.

I engage in self-reflection and "try" to know myself continuously, practicing daily.

Changing from a "bad" to a "good" personality is a journey of self-awareness, intentional action, and patience. It's important to recognize that personality isn't fixed; while some traits are more stable, they can and do change over time, especially as a result of life experiences and conscious effort.

1. Self-Reflection and Acknowledgement

The first and most important step is to honestly identify the traits I want to change. Without judgment, consider the behaviors and thought patterns that hold me back or negatively impact my life and relationships. Acknowledging these traits is a sign of strength, not weakness.

2. Set Specific and Actionable Goals

"I will practice mindfulness to pause and reflect before reacting impulsively."

"I will express gratitude to one person each day."

3. Understand the Characteristics of a "Good" Personality

While "good" is subjective, many positive traits are universally valued. These often include:

- Integrity and Trustworthiness:

- Empathy and Compassion:

- Kindness and Respect:

- Responsibility:

- Patience and Emotional Regulation:

- Open-Mindedness:

- Resilience, the ability to bounce back:

4. Practice, Practice, Practice

Use affirmations: Repeating positive statements about yourself ("I am a patient person," "I am a good listener") can help rewire your brain and build self-confidence.

Affirmations are positive statements you say repeatedly to yourself to deal with situations that cause anxiety or doubt.

5. Seek Feedback and Support.

Find community: Joining a group for personal development provides motivation and a sense of accountability.

6. Be Patient and Compassionate with Yourself:

This is a long-term process.

Self-reflection can involve recognizing the Defense Mechanisms that I frequently use:

Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies we use to protect ourselves from anxiety and uncomfortable feelings.

These mechanisms operate unconsciously to help us cope with difficult situations.

These mechanisms can be broadly categorized as "good" (or adaptive) and "bad" (or maladaptive), based on how healthy and beneficial they are in the long term.

St Therese Lisieux, 8-11 August 2025

On 07 August morning, ee, all of six, drove Ottawa - Montreal to our friends house, Aulia n Ricka. Aulia drove us to YUL Montreal airport.
Arrived at Paris Orly on 08 August at 12:00, took a taxi to Gare St Lazare. Pass by the Arc of Triumph. 




Had lunch togetehr at St Lazare station.
By train to Lisieux, stayed at hotel Logis d'Or, Lisieux.
Amelia and Mikaela had enjoy the trip. We ate at the Swarma beside St Pierre Cathedral

Saturday morning went around the public market, then went to St Therese Lisieux Basilica.
Pray in the fron of St Therese relics for our daughters and son, Indradjaja-Tjahjadi families, friends: asking mercy for our healthiness


Monday, 11 August: Train Lisieux - Gare St.Lazare
Go down two floors to take Metro from Gare St. Lazare - Gare Paris Montparnasse 1et2

to hot 39 Celsius, fortunately there came the Bus, took us from Gare de Lourdes to Gate St-Joseph. Walked to hotel Roissy about 10 minutes

Learn to use Gemini AI

Today I learn a new tech : Artificial Inteligence, with Gemini AI

1. Understand What Gemini Can Do (and What It Can't Yet)

Gemini is incredibly versatile! It can:

• Generate Text: Write emails, summaries, stories, poems, scripts, blog posts, outlines, and more.

• Brainstorm Ideas: Help you think of concepts for parties, gifts, businesses, stories, or just about anything.

• Summarize Information: Condense long articles, documents, or conversations into key points.

• Answer Questions: Provide information on a vast range of topics.

• Translate Languages: Translate text between many different languages.

• Write and Debug Code: Assist with various programming tasks.

• Process Images (and sometimes audio/video): You can upload images and ask Gemini questions about them, or ask it to generate images from descriptions.

• Integrate with Google Workspace (for Workspace users): This is a huge productivity booster! It can help draft emails in Gmail, create content in Docs, summarize meetings in Meet, analyze data in Sheets, and design presentations in Slides.

• Perform "Deep Search": For more complex research, it can pull information from multiple sources and synthesize it into a comprehensive report.

What it's still learning:

While powerful, Gemini is an AI model and not a human. It can sometimes:

• Hallucinate: Provide inaccurate or made-up information. Always fact-check critical information!

• Lack Nuance: Sometimes miss subtle emotional cues or complex human reasoning.

• Be Limited by its Training Data: While it has a vast knowledge base, it won't know about extremely recent events (like things that happened yesterday) or very niche, obscure topics that aren't widely documented.

2. Master the Art of Prompting (This is Key!)

This is where efficiency truly comes in. Your "prompt" is the instruction you give Gemini. The better your prompt, the better and faster your result.

Here are the best practices for crafting effective prompts:

• Be Clear and Specific: Don't be vague. Instead of "Write about dogs," try "Write a 300-word blog post for dog owners about the benefits of daily walks, using a friendly and encouraging tone."

• Provide Context: Give Gemini all the necessary background information. If you want a party idea, tell it the age of the person, their interests, the budget, and how many people.

• Define a Persona (Optional but Powerful): Tell Gemini to "Act as a marketing expert," "You are a creative writer," or "As a personal assistant..." This helps it tailor its language and approach.

• Specify Format: Tell it how you want the output. "Provide bullet points," "Write a numbered list," "Format as a table," "Write a short paragraph," or "Create an outline."

• Set Constraints/Limits: "Keep it under 200 words," "Focus only on X and Y," "Do not include Z."

• Break Down Complex Tasks: If you have a big project, break it into smaller steps and prompt Gemini for each step. For example, first ask for an outline, then ask it to flesh out each section of the outline.

• Use Examples (Few-Shot Prompting): If you have a specific style or format in mind, give Gemini an example. "Here's an example of the kind of email I usually send: [paste example]. Now, write an email about..."

• Iterate and Refine: Don't expect perfection on the first try. If the response isn't quite right, tell Gemini what to change. You can say "Make it shorter," "Make it more formal," "Add more detail about X," or "Rewrite it from a different perspective."

3. Leverage Gemini's Features

• "Modify Response" Options: After Gemini generates a response, you'll often see options like "Make it shorter," "Make it longer," "Simpler," "More casual," or "More professional." Use these! They're quick ways to tweak the output.

• "Redo" button: If the initial response isn't what you're looking for, click "Redo" to get a completely new version of the same prompt.

• "Double-check response" (Google Search integration): This is incredibly useful for verifying factual claims. Click the Google icon, and it will often highlight statements that can be checked with a quick search.

• Conversation Memory: Gemini remembers the context of your conversation. You don't need to repeat yourself constantly. You can build on previous prompts and responses.

• New Chat: If you want to start a completely fresh conversation without Gemini referencing previous topics, simply start a "New Chat."

4. Practical Tips for Efficiency

• Experiment: The best way to learn is by doing! Try different prompts, see what works, and refine your approach.

• Save Effective Prompts: If you discover a prompt that consistently gives you great results for a specific task, save it! You can copy and paste it or even create your own "prompt library."

• Give Feedback: Use the "thumbs up" and "thumbs down" icons. This helps Gemini learn and improve over time.

• Stay Updated: AI models are constantly evolving. Keep an eye on Google's official announcements or tech news for new features and capabilities.

By following these guidelines, you'll quickly become a pro at using Gemini to assist you with a wide array of tasks, making your digital life more efficient and effective! What kind of tasks are you hoping to use Gemini for primarily? Knowing that might help me give even more tailored advice!

Death Cleaning

 What to do, where to go with whom? Questions that have been popping up lately.

Then a few days ago..,what if I suddenly die? What have I done?
- Create a blog, yes I have been doing this for 8 years.
- Create memorable photos for a slideshow on my celebration of life event?
Then the thought came to mind: how about preparing for death?
What do I need to prepare? Ooh, my day is getting dim..
Luckily I got "Death Cleaning Swedish style" by Margareta Magnusson, 2018
The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning
How to Free Yourself and Your Family From a Lifetime of Clutter

Death cleaning (or Swedish Death Cleaning) is the process of
decluttering and organizing your belongings to reduce the burden on loved ones
after you pass away.
The term comes from the Swedish word **"döstädning"**
(*dö* = death, *städning* = cleaning) and was popularized by Margareta Magnusson’s book
"The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning."

Key Aspects of Death Cleaning:
1. Purposeful Decluttering – Removing unnecessary items so family won’t have to deal with them later.  
2. Gifting & Donating – Passing on meaningful items to loved ones or charities while you’re still alive.  
3. Organizing Important Documents – Ensuring wills, financial records, and sentimental items are easy to find.  
4. Minimizing Stress for Survivors – Preventing disputes over possessions and making the grieving process smoother.  

How It Differs from Regular Decluttering:
- Focuses on **legacy** rather than just tidying up.  
- Encourages **letting go** of things that won’t matter after death.  
- Often done by older adults but can be started at any age.  

Why People Do It:
- To **avoid leaving a mess** for family.  
- To **reflect on life** and what truly matters.  
- To **simplify life** in later years.  

Tips on how to start death cleaning:

Starting **death cleaning** can feel overwhelming, but breaking it down into
manageable steps makes it easier. Here’s a practical guide to begin:  

1. Shift Your Mindset 
- Think of it as a **gift to your loved ones**—not a morbid task.  
- Focus on **quality over quantity**—keep what truly matters.  

2. Start Small & Easy
- Begin with **low-emotion areas** (expired meds, duplicate kitchen tools, old paperwork).  
- Avoid starting with sentimental items (photos, heirlooms) until you’re comfortable.  

3. Sort Methodically (Use the "Keep/Gift/Toss" System)
- **Keep**: Essentials, items you love/use regularly.  
- **Gift/Donate**: Things others might appreciate (family, friends, charities).  
- **Toss/Recycle**: Broken, expired, or useless items.  

4. Tackle Sentimental Items Thoughtfully
- Ask: "Would my family want this?"(Many keepsakes lose meaning after you’re gone.)  
- Photograph items before letting go (e.g., children’s artwork, trophies).  
- Pass down *heirlooms now* with stories attached.  

5. Organize Important Documents
- Create a "Death Binder" with:  
  - WILL, advance directives, passwords  
  - Financial/insurance records  
  - Funeral wishes (burial/cremation preferences)  
- Tell a trusted person where it’s stored.  

6. Downsize Collections & Hobbies
- Keep only what you **actively use or display** (books, crafts, memorabilia).  
- Donate specialty items (tools, musical instruments) to enthusiasts.  

7. Digitize What You Can 
- Scan old photos, letters, and home videos; share digital copies with family.  
- Label digital files clearly.  

8. Involve Family (If Comfortable)
- Let loved ones *claim items they want* now.  
- Discuss your intentions to avoid surprises later.  

9. Repeat Gradually
- Death cleaning is ongoing — do a little each season.  
- Revisit past decisions; you may be ready to let go of more later.  

10. Enjoy the Benefits
- A lighter, more organized space.  
- Peace of mind knowing your affairs are in order.  

Tips: Margareta Magnusson suggests starting in your *50s or 60s*,
but it’s never too early (or late) at 75 to begin.  

petrus
"What about death cleaning for my soul?"

Mikaela Violin Recital, 22June2025

 June 22, 2025 St-Bartholomew Anglican Chruch

           Gavotte - Gossec: Mikaela Labelle

           The Snake Charmer-Helmut Lipsky: Mikaela Labelle

2021 Tadoussac Whale watching

 

2021 October 15: Our whale watching boat returned to base, we saw a group of large whales with White Whales (Bellugas)

We went to Tadoussac with Andy Sucipto - Threes,
Ottawa

2021 October: Trois Rivieres, Tadoussac, Mont Tremblant

google-photos

Trois Rivieres
Saguenay
Tadoussac
Saguenay

Mont Tremblant

Ottawa

Japan Cinga Family Spring 2024

Japan Cinga Family 2024

 Day 1 (Sun, 31/3/24) Jakarta - Tokyo 

• Depart 6.10AM // ANA NH836 // CGK T3 
  

 Day 2 (Mon, 1/4/24) Tokyo – Osaka 

• 6.50AM – 7AM Nikko Shuttle to Narita Airport T1 (4F) 
• Breakfast @Airport 
• 8.25AM – 10.05AM Airport Limousine Bus 1F Arrival Lobby Stop 10 
• 10.39AM – 1.06PM Nozomi 225 Shinkansen Tokyo – Shin-Osaka (Alt. 11AM – 1.30PM) 
• 2PM – 2.18PM Midosuji Line: Shin-Osaka – Hommachi St, Walk 
• Stay @ Tokyu Stay Osaka Honmachi 
• 3.05PM – 3.10PM Chuo Line: Sakaisuji Hommachi St - Tanimachiyonchome Station an 
  4.30pm – 5.09PM Morinomiya St - Shinsaibashi St 

• Shinsaibashi, Dotonburi, Namba 
• Matt: 2nd Street Shinsaibashi 
• Dinner 
• 8.26PM – 8.32PM Nippombashi St - Sakaisuji Hommachi St

Day 4 (Wed, 3/4/24) Osaka – Nara - Kobe Daytrip 

• Nara Park 
  Todai-ji
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  Nakatanidou (Mochi Pounding) 

Day 5 (Thu, 4/4/24) Osaka – Tokyo 

• Stay @ JR East Hotel Mets Gotanda 
• Hedgehog Cafe & Pet Store HARRY Harajuku (matthew) 
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• Roast beef ohno Harajuku 
  
  

• Harajuku area – Polene (mirna) 
• Tokyo Tower / Azabudai Hills 

Day 

Day 6 (Fri, 5/4/24) Mt Fuji & Gotemba Daytrip 

• 7.45AM Meet up @ Sumitomo Mitsui Banking 
  
  Odaiba Area - The Gundam Base Tokyo / Small World Museum 

Day 10 (Tue, 9/4/24) Tokyo – Jakarta 

• Depart 10.20AM // ANA NH855 // HND T2 

Day 8 (Sun, 7/4/24) Tokyo 

• Senso-Ji Temple & Nakamise-dori Street – ASAKUSA